One time a month.
And that wasn’t the biggest year. She had COPD, CHF (chronic heart failure) and was a cancer survivor.
My wife and I tried everything to keep her out of the hospital. And each time it was the same.
Within a few weeks, she’d end up back in the hospital.
And within two weeks, no matter what we did, we just couldn’t keep her right and she’d end up in the hospital again.
That cycle went on for a year, year and a half. Sometimes twice a month in the hospital over the course of 2.5 years she’d be admitted or at least end up in the Emergency Room.
Finally—after that year when she was in the hospital 12 times—we realized we were doing things wrong.
We recognized what we needed as a family. Too much was falling on one person’s shoulders at a time. Care would fall on me for a time. When I wasn’t available, it was all on my wife.
All that care that had to be delivered, all of those tasks, needed to be shared among more than one person at a time. We needed a group of people in the family working all at the same time.
Then we had to organize those tasks so that we made sure they got delivered at the right time. That was no small feat in itself. What we were able to do is get all those tasks organized into a list, know when each had to happen and then share those tasks with family and friends so others could take those on.
That’s how we got more care and better care for mom so that she could feel better, longer.
Remember, she was living with us for 2.5 years. And after 6 months of not being in the hospital she was able to go home and live by herself independently.
Sure, we had people looking in on her. But living at home restored everything. Her health. Her independence. Her dignity.
It helps you do the 3 things that together we call “care-sharing” to keep your loved one out of the hospital.
That’s the way to break the cycle. That’s the way to keep our loved ones out of the hospital. That’s the way to get them to live at home by themselves independently.
Download the Care3 iPhone app in the App Store. It’s FREE and will help you use care-sharing to care for your loved ones as a team to help them feel better, longer.
David S. Williams